oblivion..oblivious.. confusing?

well, i find it confusing on how to deal with such situation. and i find it difficult on what to do and what courses of actions to make.

the scenario:
girl feels bad when you lack effort in giving her enough time and attention.(results in tampo)
girl feels irritated when you give her enough or necessary attention (ex. distress situations)

i ask anoubeh???

labo! (doh)